11 Mar Why Are Some People Unfaithful and Others Aren’t? The Psychology Behind It
Infidelity remains one of the most perplexing behaviors in relationships. To understand why some individuals are more prone to infidelity than others, we consulted an expert in psychology. According to the expert, the reasons are multifaceted, often linked to narcissistic traits, a lack of satisfaction or awareness, and the belief that sex is separate from love or commitment. He stresses that, rather than discussing infidelity as a singular act, we must talk about “infidelities,” as the motivations and outcomes can vary greatly.
Psychological trauma, such as emotional abandonment or abuse during childhood, often plays a crucial role in shaping these behaviors. Individuals who grow up in environments where infidelity is normalized may be more likely to repeat it, despite understanding the pain it can cause.
The act of infidelity is often driven by a compulsive search for love, rooted in self-deception. The person may believe that by seeking affection elsewhere, they can avoid feelings of loneliness, failure, or emotional instability. Additionally, the release of dopamine during the excitement of a new romantic experience can make it seem thrilling, often disregarding the emotional harm caused to others.
The expert clarifies that while narcissism could contribute, infidelity is ultimately a conscious choice. It’s not a pathological condition, but a deliberate decision. Therapy can help, but it depends on the individual’s willingness to change. For those who are genuinely motivated to improve, therapy can be transformative—helping both the unfaithful partner and the betrayed to heal and move forward.
